The Biggest Influence in your life is You.
On Keep
it Magic Radio, Storm and I spent the month of December on topics that put
you in a place of empowerment in your own life. We spent a lot of time on issues of
authority, bullying, finding hope in the middle of adversity and addressing
your parental issues. (If you haven’t listened to the shows they are
available on http://keepitmagic.com/index.php/en/media/keep-it-magic-radio/archives.html
, Blog Talk Radio and on ITunes. )
What each December show ended up revolving around is taking responsibility for your own behaviors and deciding what type of person you need to be. That is an easy thing to preach, but a difficult thing to embrace. So often we feel the outside influences that de-rail our day, or even our self esteem. It’s seems impossible to anticipate surprise attacks in the form of “constructive criticism” and not have that tear apart your positive energy.
Being no stranger to these examples, I know from where I speak. Being a healer and reader, I hear how many of us have this same challenge. We are constantly looking to others for validation; it’s our nature. We regularly doubt our own viability when others of authority disagree with us and let’s not forget the approval we seek from loved ones.
So, how do we get to a place where we can own and define our own happiness even in these situations of vulnerability? How do we create a stronger boundary that is always in place and not based in fight or flight responses?
We become the biggest influence in our own life.
We all know that our actions define us more than any other influencers. You are what you do and even the Law of Attraction talks about that. It’s funny how so many people think that the Law of Attraction begins and ends with the mind, but your thoughts and intentions are only the beginning of the process. How you act upon those thoughts and intentions are the key to the process.
Yes, you do need to dig deeper into your beliefs. Yes, you do need to uncover those fears and understand how they are driving you. These are all great initial steps and without them you have nothing. This is the FIRST step, meaning that there are more steps to follow. Without changing your actions your fears and beliefs will be the only thing that defines you.
You can be as focused as you want on losing weight, but if you never change your actions to move more and eat less then weight loss will only remain in your mind. If you pray to quit smoking and keep buying new packs of cigarettes, you will never become smoke free. These are just obvious and annoying examples, but what about your desire to cut out the drama in your life? Are you acting in a petty and manipulative way? Of course you aren’t, the drama is everyone else’s fault. At least that is what we want to think the truth is.
With this New Year in front of you, how do you want to approach it? Same old –same old? It might actually be time to back up your intentions with your actions. If you want more friends in your life, then you may have to leave the house more often and put yourself in more social situations. If you want to limit the drama in your life, you may have to limit your Facebook time to 15 minutes a day. (Have you ever noticed the biggest pot stirrers in Facebook are the ones who camps on it all day?)
With 2012 stirring up our perspectives, this is the perfect opportunity to get a new one for you. I know it’s time for me to take inventory on my influencers and who they are. It’s time for me to become my own biggest influencer and live the life and spirit that calls to me.